A simple script for asking for money back
Casual wording for asking a friend or relative to pay you back, and why the tone matters more than the exact words.
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Notes on lending, borrowing and keeping money friendly.
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May 2026
Memorial Day cookouts and the quiet cost of hosting
Hosting a holiday cookout adds up fast. Some thoughts on chipping in as a guest, and accepting help as a host, without making it feel transactional.
Bachelor and bachelorette party math, gently explained
One person usually fronts the deposits for a bachelor or bachelorette trip. Here's a calmer way to settle up so nobody ends up resentful.
Why "no rush" might be the riskiest thing you say when lending
Saying "no rush" feels kind when you lend money, but vague terms tend to get awkward later. A little gentle clarity up front helps both of you.
Lending money across borders without fighting over exchange rates
When a friend or relative abroad pays you back in a different currency, things get weird fast. Keeping each currency separate helps a lot.
What my mom taught me about money and generosity
A Mother's Day reflection on giving versus lending, and how my mom managed to be generous without ever keeping score out loud.
Graduation money: is it a gift or a loan?
When relatives help a new grad with money, it's kinder to say out loud whether it's a gift or a loan. A few thoughts on how.
April 2026
Wedding season and the costs friends front for each other
Bridesmaid dresses and hotel blocks add up fast, and someone always fronts the money. Thoughts on keeping it fair and getting square afterward.
How different generations think about lending money
From cash in an envelope to a $4.50 Venmo request, a few thoughts on how the generations in my family handle lending and owing.
The friend who borrows and forgets: a field guide
A lighthearted look at the lovable friend who borrows money and genuinely forgets, and how to get repaid without losing them.